the dress code that the society imposes on the women has been a thorn in my side ( manner of speaking).
theses old men dictate how a women should dress and i do mean "a dress".
i can remember when i lived in connecticut and the temp would be in single digits and when it came time for field service you must put on that dress.
I know what you mean Megaflower. It was one of my pet peeves too.
Most other churches have lightened up on the dress code--even the catholics. You can always spot the fundies because the women are always in skirts. There are some that are worse than the witnesses because the women can never wear pants at all.
Crafty
personally i am a agnostic with a complete rejection of a personal god.
without the concept of salvation my belief structure states that when i die, very likely that is it.
no amount of good or bad deeds will extend my life past the point of my death.
Since I don't believe in an afterlife, I have come to grips with my own mortality. Even if I'm not remembered a hundred years from now, if some friends and family were glad that I was alive and mourn my passing, then I've lived a pretty good life.
Crafty
well it looks like this site is a real melting pot, a broad spectrum of views and beliefs.
for sure there are many disaffected ex jws.
so in as few words as possible, preferably not more than one sentence, how would you describe yourself spiritually?
Atheist. I can't believe innocent babies are "born in sin" for something they didn't do. Doesn't make sense to me.
Crafty
is it true that in america there is no paid maternity leave?.
if so surely that means most people have to return to work pretty quick after they have had a baby?
if thats true, then surely that means its not possible to breast feed your baby exclusively for any time at all?
My daughter-in-law had 12 weeks off and will go back January 2. She is nursing the twins and will pump the milk during the day and refrigerate it so the day care can bottle feed it to the twins the next day. She works in a health care office and there are lots of women who pump during the day in their office. Maybe Office Max can add a designer breast pump series to their catalog.
Crafty
what have you done [or anticipate doing] that is special, original or just plain exciting to you?
the grandmunchkins are all excited about christmas morning, and there are stacks of presents under the tree.
the tree has become more colorful this year, as we add to it every year now.
Wow, Finally-Free. When you buy yourself a present, you go all out, don't you. A new house.
Crafty
i just woke up on christmas morning to see what santa brought me.
i would have been happy with a lump of coal.
but alas, not this year.
I got two CD's - Reba's Duets and Andrea Bocelli (did I spell that right?) Santa didn't bring me the Paul Potts one, so I'll have to mosey to the mall sometime and see if I can find it.
I got to spend time with my son and daughter-in-law and the grandbabies. That was wonderful. My son got me a cell phone and put me on his plan (only $10 a month for additional lines!!) - we're all on Verizon so it won't cost any minutes to call each other. He also got me the original Star Trek DVD set--all three years. Trouble with Tribbles, here I come.
Crafty Lady
Woodhaven and Ozone Park in Queens, NYC.
Watkins Glen in upstate NY.
Crafty
ive been lurking for a few weeks and finally thought it was about time i joined.
ive never posted on a forum before so please be patient with me if i screw it up.
a little bit about why im here .
Like to Think (Love your name)
There were a lot of things I didn't agree with--the treatment of women and also the emphasis on meaningless dogma and doctrine were biggies.
I think I've written it here before, but the straw that broke the camel's back was this: my sister got disfellowshipped for living with her boyfriend. I wouldn't talk to her even though it was killing me. Talk about being torn. Well, they got married and came into a restaurant where I was working. Her husband told me they were married and I said I couldn't talk to her because she was still disfellowshipped. I realized I could no longer say such stupid things that I really didn't believe. It wasn't long until I was out. She's still my best friend--I'm so glad she forgave me.
Crafty Lady
i think posting on a discussion board can tend to come across in a certain way, personality wise.. i'm the type of person "in real life" that is usually considered quite funny.
i have a very quick wit and i can usually disable someone rather quickly with a facial expression, smile or definitive body language.
of course, you can't see those things here but you might notice a person's humor (or lack of it) by how they post.. so what tickles your funny bone?
Princess Daisy Boo, I know what you mean about biting your tongue, but sometimes things slip out that I wish hadn't.
For example, there was a young man in our town who killed his wife Liz. He panicked and put her body on the train tracks and as you can imagine, her head and legs were cut off by the next train. Our family knew this couple. A few months later, I was at my brother's house and his daughter's headless, legless Barbie was on the table. "Look" I said, "It's a Liz doll!" There was stunned silence for a few seconds, then everyone burst out laughing. It was awful, I know, but we sometimes have a black sense of humor. They still tease me about it and I think I still blush.
Crafty Lady
usually, i enjoyed the public talk, if the speaker was good but i thought the theocratic ministry was boring!!!.
the service meeting was just a sales meeting.
the book studies were simply ridiculous.
They were all bad, but I especially hated the book study. It was always arcane crap that I couldn't care less about. Chariot wheels, harlots, oh, my! Plus one place we went, they still had the plastic on the couch (rhymes with "ouch"; when you got up in the summer, half of your thighs were stuck on the plastic. Plus, if you wiggled from boredom, the plastic made horrible noises. Plus, the reader was a dear man who was the worst reader I've ever heard. It was pure torture listening to him try to sound out the words. Plus, the interested old lady who came wearing a see-through negligee she thought was a dress. Oh yes, those were the days.
Crafty
